My own little micro-minority.

Phantom Fern © copyright D. Gerard Lancaster

Phantom Fern © 2011 D. Gerard Lancaster

I admire lesbian women. I see them as having a massive kind of freedom that’s been lacking in my life due to certain roles I’ve been locked into since birth. They seem to have the boldness of men without female restrictions.

I admire gay men. Their strength as men, combined with their lack of masculine restrictions, can result in amazing creativity. I’m lucky to have as a friend the immensely creative D. Gerard Lancaster–painter, photographer, composer and fiction writer. (I keep telling him he should go into illustration, but will he listen? No!)

Of course, my view is romanticized. Lesbians and gays have their own lock-ins and lock-downs. But from the outside I admire the the lack of boundaries imposed by a mainstream culture.

What I admire most is the individual, sometimes called the smallest minority. That means each of you: whatever there is of you that’s you alone, separate from society. I admire the ability to see and act independently and without artificial restrictions.

Maybe I don’t admire lesbians and gays. Maybe I’m jealous. They’re independent of mainstream culture to a certain point, but participate in a smaller culture in which they can find people who may be more like themselves.

On second thought, I don’t have to be jealous since my husband and I make up a little mini-culture. Together we’re a micro-minority all our own.

These are the thoughts I’ve been trying to put into words ever since I was awarded two blogging awards last week. (So I guess I’m part of the blogging mini-society, too.)

Liebster blogging awardThank you, Serena Dracis, for the Liebster Award. Versatile Blogger Award Thank you, Prudence MacLeod, for The Versatile Blogger Award.

Thanks for thinking of me. For different reasons, neither of you has to worry about being swallowed up in the mainstream culture. Stay strong!

Each award must be passed on. I pass the Liebster Blog Award on to Kate Spencer, Pat O’Dea Rosen, Asrai Devin, BJ Bangs and Louise Behiel. The Versatile Blogger goes to Mark Lieberman, Soapmarked, Kristy K. James, Jane Myers Perrine and Jean.

As for the facts about myself I should disclose as a requirement for accepting the awards–see above.

By S.J. Driscoll

20 thoughts on “My own little micro-minority.

  1. Pat O'Dea Rosen

    Thanks, Sally, for the Liebster Award. I’m surprised, touched, and honored. Thanks, too, for your thoughtful post.

    Jane Perrine left Houston for the Texas Hill Country and then Austin. Some in Humidity City haven’t forgiven her for abandoning us. Hi, Jane!!

    I see Jane vows to be more versatile as a result of getting The Versatile Blogger award. I promise to be more . . . liebster?

  2. Alicia Street

    You write such beautiful posts, Sally! Having spent most of my adult life in urban performing arts environments, I have the same respect (and fighting mad demands) that individuals of every nature have a right to carve out a world that suits their soul.

  3. August McLaughlin

    This is one of the most unique commentary’s on homosexuality I’ve come across, SJ. Anyone who has overcome or faced adversity and embraced their authenticity is a hero in my eyes. Though bigotry rides on, I’m thrilled to see more and more acceptance of people of all colors, shapes, preferences, ages and belief systems. Micro-minority… What a great concept!

    1. SJ Driscoll

      August, re homosexuality: I’ve worked on a urology journal for 18 years, exposed to the latest research. According to that and IMHO, homosexuality is as “normal” as heterosexuality. Sexuality is analogue (exists along a range: a continuum), not digital (binary: either/or). Human biochem is so weird it’s a wonder anybody’s “normal” at all. It’s a matter of scale… Hmm. Maybe this requires a new post. 🙂

  4. gingercalem

    Beautiful post and so very thought inspiring. I wish for everyone to feel secure and safe enough to be uniquely themselves and for no one else to judge them for their courage to do so. What a world that would be!

  5. prudencemacleod

    Sally, thanks for the kind thoughts. I agree that as we age we re-invent ourselves a few times. The life lesson that set me free of a lot of conventions was to learn that it is Ok to be different. Some will hate you for it, some will fear you for it, and some will love you for it. It can be scary at time, yet completely exhilarating at others.
    Reach inside and pull out that inner you, folks and wear it proudly. Life is too short to live in fear. You are strong; live your strength. Seize the day!

    1. SJ Driscoll

      Thank you, Prudence. “Live your strength.” I like that. Too much strength is spent in forcing ourselves to stay within arbitrary societal boundaries. Imagine if that strength were set free!

  6. Louise Behiel

    Thank you so much, Sally. I’m honored. I’ll give it some thought and most definitely pass it on.

    Like you, I admire people who can kindly walk their own walk, without fanfare of grandstanding but simply doing what is right for them. I continue to learn that lesson.

  7. Jane Myers Perrine

    Wow! How cool. You;’re passing the Versatile Blogger award to me? No one reads my blog! But thank you! Thank you. (Wave, wave) I will try, in everything, to be more vesatline. And you passed the Leibster award to my dear and talented friend Pat O”Dea Rosen.

    Having just received and gloried in this award, now I have to pass it on?

    1. SJ Driscoll

      You are cool, Jane! And, yes, you should pass it on. I think it was originally to 14 other bloggers, but I cut it down to five. Also, you should mention seven things about yourself. I didn’t know Pat’s a friend of yours! Great!

  8. Molly Pendlebury

    Nice Post!! Now you have me thinking…What do I have or is me alone without society??? HHHmmm that does seem tough for me. I’ve always seen myself as a follower and highly influenced by society…..I know there’s something in me that’s mine alone but,….what could it be??? Thanks….I’ll ponder on that as I head to bed tonight :o)

  9. asrai

    Thank for the award. 🙂

    I started commenting with “wouldn’t it be nice to live a different life, at least for a little while” and I thought “that’s what writing is about.” That’s why I write fiction, so I can live other lives, just for a litle while.

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